"Mom, what's self-care?"
If your elementary school aged child has started asking about self-care, congratulations! This is actually an exciting developmental milestone. While we often think of self-care as fancy spa days and expensive treatments (thanks, social media!), teaching children about true self-care establishes healthy habits that last a lifetime.
So when your 8-year-old comes home asking about self-care—perhaps after hearing the term from friends, social media, or even in school—it's the perfect opportunity to introduce some important concepts in an age-appropriate way.
What Self-Care Really Means for Kids
Self-care for children isn't about face masks and bubble baths (though those can certainly be fun!). At its core, self-care is about teaching children to:
- Recognize their physical and emotional needs
- Take responsibility for their personal hygiene
- Understand the connection between how they care for their bodies and how they feel
- Develop routines that make them feel good inside and out
For school aged kids, self-care is the foundation of independence and self-confidence. When children learn to care for themselves, they gain a sense of accomplishment and pride that boosts their self-esteem.
Age-Appropriate Self-Care for Elementary School Kids
Physical Self-Care
By age 8, most children are ready to take on more responsibility for their physical care, with some guidance:
- Morning and evening routines: Encourage consistent hygiene habits specially formulated for children, like a gentle face wash, lotion, or teeth brushing.
- Shower or bath independence: Many elementary school aged kids can handle bathing independently. Our Whippity Cloud Foaming Bath Wash makes it easy with its kid friendly pump bottle and tear-free formula.
- Hair care: Teach proper brushing techniques and how to use just the right amount of products.
- Hand washing: Continue reinforcing the importance of thorough hand washing, especially before eating and after using the bathroom.
Emotional Self-Care
Self-care isn't just about the outside—it's also about caring for our feelings:
- Identifying emotions: Help your child name their feelings and recognize when they need a break or some quiet time.
- Stress relief techniques: Simple breathing exercises or stretches can help kids manage big feelings.
- Healthy boundaries: Teaching kids it's okay to say "no" when they need space is an important part of self-care.
- Sleep hygiene: Quality sleep is essential for emotional regulation.
Making Self-Care Fun and Not a Chore
The key to teaching kids about self-care is making it enjoyable rather than another task to complete:
- Give your kids their own corner of the shower and vanity: Fill it with products that are made just for them, so they know it's theirs.
- Establish routines with visual aids: A colorful chart with pictures can help kids remember each step of their morning and bedtime routines. Take a look at our print outs that you use with your kids.
- Model self-care yourself: Let your child see you prioritizing your own care routines.
- Turn it into quality time: Initially, do some self-care activities together, like wearing hydrating face masks while reading a favorite book.
- Celebrate milestones: Acknowledge when your child remembers their routine without prompting!
When "Self-Care" Comes from Social Media
If your child's interest in self-care stems from videos they've seen online, use this as an opportunity to discuss the difference between commercial self-care and true self-care:
- Explain that many products advertised as "self-care" aren't necessary or appropriate for children
- Emphasize that real self-care is about how we treat our bodies and minds, not about buying things
- Help them understand that many social media influencers are trying to sell products
Building a Foundation for the Future
The self-care habits your child develops now will evolve as they grow. The goal isn't perfection but progress. By introducing age-appropriate products and routines now, you're setting them up for the more complex self-care needs of the preteen and teenage years.
Your Child's Self-Care Journey Starts Here
Remember that teaching self-care is a process. Some days will go smoothly, while others might require more patience and guidance. The important thing is that you're helping your child develop a healthy relationship with their body and personal care routines.
By responding positively to your kid's interest in self-care, you're nurturing their growing independence while ensuring they have the knowledge and tools to care for themselves appropriately.
What self-care routines have worked for your elementary-aged child? Share your tips in the comments below!
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